Dating Hiatus

17 07 2011

I will be visiting a family member with a terminal illness this week. I hope to be back to blogging the week of July 25th.

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19 responses

17 07 2011
Kat Richter

Sorry to hear this, but I’ll look forward to your stories when you get back 🙂

25 07 2011
mydatingprescription

Thanks, Kat.

17 07 2011
Surrey gal

I’m sorry to hear that… about your relative, that is. xx

25 07 2011
mydatingprescription

Thanks, SG.

17 07 2011
Jewish, but not a doctor

Take care, enjoy your time with them and leave nothing left to say-the way we should always live. 🙂 Still enjoying your blog and your journey as I hope you are enjoying them too. I look forward to your return.

25 07 2011
mydatingprescription

Thank you for your comment, Jewish, BNAD. I saw your comment the day I left on my trip, and thought about it often over the past 9 days. I take comfort in the fact that everything I felt I needed to say got said in this trip. If I have the chance to see him again, it will be a blessing, but if not, I know I have said and done what I needed to cherish these memories with him.

25 07 2011
Jewish, but not a doctor

🙂 See you when you are ready to get back at the keyboard

23 07 2011
Renee

So sorry about your family member. Be gentle with yourself in the midst. Looking forward your return.

25 07 2011
mydatingprescription

Thank you, Renee.

24 07 2011
wow

Ms Prescription: Am glad that you were able to go and be with them this past week. Life is as it is and the time spent will always be memories to cherish. Thanks for keeping in touch while you were there.

Mr. Jewish: Very well said-so very true.

Take care dear girl. love & hugs, Mom

25 07 2011
mydatingprescription

Thanks, Mom. Although somewhat stressful, I am glad I could be there for them last week. I’ll have good memories from my trip, including letting my aunt convince me to help her steal apricots from a neighbor’s tree. We made some kick ass jam.

25 07 2011
Jewish, but not a doctor

Still here hoping events are unfolding with dignity and with love. Death comes to us all, sometimes all too soon but some are lucky enough to die with dignity, surrounded by those they love and who love them back.

We relative strangers will be here when you come back and are ready to share with us again.

25 07 2011
mydatingprescription

Love, yes. Dignity seems harder to define. I have been fortunate enough to have very few people with whom I’ve been close die. To say I am unprepared for this is a huge understatement.

When I moved to the Pacific Northwest in 1991, my uncle and I really got to know each other by hiking together. We have shared a lot of stories, and I’ve always been astounded by his ingenuity, strength and drive. This was a guy who could practically RUN up Tiger Mountain, and someone who I witnessed move a downed 16″ diameter conifer single-handedly off of a trail using nothing by a cable winch and carefully calculated leverage. He rarely took a pill in his life, so to sit up with him at 4 a.m., waiting for his pain medication to kick in and seeing him pace back and forth like a crazed, sick animal to fight off his nausea, was both heartbreaking and terrifying. As a man who, even now, does not want to ask for help, I’m sure he would not think of his current condition as dignified, but I’m very glad I could be there for him.

Relative strangers or not, I value all of your wishes and comments. Thank you.

25 07 2011
Jewish, but not a doctor

Sometimes dignity comes in ways we could never imagine. To allow yourself to be weak and ask for help can sometimes take great courage and true strength. Feel honored that he loves you so much to let you see him like this at his most vulnerable. It is an act of true love for a man to appear so weak, it takes great character to do this for a man like you describe.

Take some comfort and joy to know that he loves you so deeply to entrust these moments with you. That he feels no real shame nor embarrassment to once again teach you through his actions what real class, character and trust are and how they can be expressed, in difficult times, to those that are most cherished.

It can be hard to see a man once so strong seem so frail, but it is clear his courage still flows through his veins. Feel proud of the way he once again shows his strength and love for you-at this moment it may seem terrifying and heartbreaking but to me it seems quite beautiful.

Dignity is the way you deal with the cards you are dealt, more so when you know it is a loosing hand. He sounds like a man to be emulated and remembered to me…

I’ll be here waiting for that smile I get when I see the only blog I have on my RSS feed waiting for me once again in my inbox…take your time.

29 07 2011
mydatingprescription

Well, you are certainly more eloquent that I am. This was beautiful. It made me cry (in a good way.) It just made me realized that I have managed to pack away a ton of valuable memories in the past week that I will cherish for a very long time. Plus, I am flattered to be the author of the only blog to which you subscribe. Thank you.

27 07 2011
wow

Oh, when you told me about the apricot tree incident, it took me back in time… I could just see your Grama charging into the buffalo berry trees with her tarp, shake the trees, etc… and Grama’s escapade with the neighbor’s crab apples. Kickass jam runs in the family…. haha

29 07 2011
mydatingprescription

I think I forgot to tell you that Aunt D came back from the grocery store later that day and said, “Apricots were $3.99 per pound!” To which I responded, “Well, at that price, I guess it’s a good thing we didn’t steal enough to make it a felony.” 🙂 It does remind me a lot of the crazy shit grandma used to do.

27 07 2011
wow

and going in where angels fear to tread!

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