Big Fish

2 03 2012

Ok, I know I said I would not be responding to emails sent by men who posed with dead fish in their profile pictures, but I may need to reconsider.


Blog Photo Poll

29 05 2011
My photos taken by Shari at Luce Bella Photography are ready to be revealed, and I wanted to get reader input on which ones to use on the blog. I think I could find space to use two of the photos here on different pages.  I have headshots too, but for now, I’m still blogging fairly anonymously.  For those who don’t know me, I’ll just have to remain mysterious.

From the top, we have the photo of the Spring Wedge, winner of the shoe poll.   Then the gray jeans, gray boots and silver toenails that I wore for my first date with The Blues Man.  After that is the black and white version of the same gray boots.  The Pink Python Sandal was the runner up in the shoe poll, so I had to take those shoes with me on the day of the photoshoot.

And finally, let’s not forget my favorite co-star in all of this. Last but certainly not least, we have the handsome and mighty Thor.  Isn’t he just awesome??  He got plenty of time in front of the camera too.  Please vote. I can’t decide.

Photo courtesy of Luce Bella Photography

Photo courtesy of Luce Bella Photography


Photo courtesy Luce Bella Photography

Photo courtesy of Luce Bella Photography


Photo courtesy of Luce Bella Photography



What to Wear? What to Wear?

8 05 2011

Thank you to everyone who voted in the shoe poll last week.  I checked the results right before sitting down to write this post, and it looks like there was a tie between The Spring Wedge and The Pink Python Sandal.  Therefore, it’s only right that I take both pairs of shoes to my photo session. 

Photo courtesy of Luce Bella Photography

My photo session with Shari from Luce Bella Photography is tomorrow morning, and I’m both nervous and excited.  I’m pretty sure I know what to wear to my photo session, but I’m in the last-minute preparations of trying everything on and checking everything out in the mirror one last time before tomorrow morning. 

When I was planning what to wear to my photo session, I decided I don’t want to wear anything too formal.  Basically, I want to wear what makes me feel comfortable and what makes me feel like I look good.  I want my profile photos to capture my personality and my style without being too formal.  The important part, of course, is that I want my profile photos to look like me, the woman men will meet when I walk into a date.

The other thing I was thinking when I was considering what to wear to my photo session is that I don’t want my profile photos to become dated too quickly, so I’m opting for mostly solid colored clothes.  To jazz things up I’ll probably add some funky jewelry and try to blend different textures.  I have one multi-colored blouse that I will probably wear with one of the outfits and a suit that I may or may not use.  (I’m also hoping to get a shot or two that would be appropriate for my LinkedIn profile.) 

My legs are so white after the long winter I haven’t decided whether or not I’ll take a skirt.  I know men like skirts, but I’m feeling a little self-conscious about my legs right now.

In a way I want to break the rules a little and that’s why I chose Shari at Luce Bella Photography.  When shopping online for a date, after a while all profiles start to look and sound the same.  (Fellow dating blogger, Zak, wrote an awesome post on techniques to make your profile more interesting. Check it out.)  As Zak, suggests, I’ve tried to write my profile so it tells men things that are unique to me. For example, one of the things I mention is that I tore my calf muscle once playing dodgeball.  I want my photos to be unique in the same way.  Shari is very creative and I can’t wait to see what ideas she comes up with to bring out my personality.

I also went and had a pedicure yesterday, so  my feet are ready for all of the great shoes I’m taking with me.

Ok.  Wish me luck.  I can’t wait to share the results with everyone.

Photo here.

In Need of Cute Profile Photos

2 05 2011

Photo courtesy of Luce Bella Photography

Back in February, when I finally decided to jump into the online dating pool, I wasn’t really prepared. As I was setting up my online profile, I realized that I really didn’t have any cute profile photos I could use.  As a mom, I have typically ended up behind the camera, and I’m not one of those people who is constantly snapping photos of myself with my cell phone.  As I searched my computer files, trying to figure out where to get cool profile photos, I realized I just didn’t have any.  Before my marriage I had tons of photos that would have worked as a fun profile photo, but searching through my files, I realized that this again was an area of my life that had somehow dwindled away during my marriage.

I’m still somewhat baffled as to how this happened.

Actually, I know what part of the problem was.  Most of the photos I had, which showed my face and worked well as a fun profile photos, also had my STB-ex in them.  If I wanted to use them on or, I would need to cut him out of them.  Now, I don’t know about you, but personally, I have always thought that profile photos featuring someone who was obviously cropped out seem a little tacky, and I didn’t want a photo like that in my online dating profile.

So the problem still remained.  Where to get cool profile photos?

In the interim, I chose two photos of myself, and one of my dog.  Neither of my photos showed my current hair color, which I had recently decided to dye auburn as part of my re-launch.  The only profile photo with which I was really happy was the one of my dog.

Those photos would have to do for now.  I didn’t want to have a profile without a photo.  You don’t get any attention that way, and in order to fulfill the 6 month guarantee requirements at, you have to have a profile photo visible.

So, I started asking around, trying to figure out where to get a cool profile photo.  Some friends of mine took a few of those cell phone portraits, but usually these were taken while we were out at a club somewhere, and I usually ended up with a drink in front of my face.  Not really what I was going for.

In the meantime, I also felt my LinkedIn profile photo needed to be updated, so rather than settle on a profile photo from a night out of partying, I decided I would search for a professional photographer who could take some cute profile photos that I could use on my blog, on my online dating profiles, and on my LinkedIn profile.

At long last, a friend of mine sent me the information for a friend of hers who is a photographer.  She told me that she had taken some fun profile photos of her, and that men had complimented her for looking in real life just as she did in her online profile. (That’s always a plus.)  So, I am so excited, because next Monday, I will be meeting Shari, of Luce Bella Photography and doing a photoshoot to fulfill my online profile photo needs!  Yey!!  I can’t wait.  I’m so tired of the photos I have, and Shari is fun and creative, and I love the ideas she has so far.

I have a couple of outfits picked out, but I haven’t chosen a third and it will be largely based on which shoes I wear.  I need help.  Please vote on one pair of shoes from the shoes below.  (By the way, these photos are NOT from Luce Bella Photography. They were taken by yours truly.) 

The Spring Wedge

The Super High Come F$*& Me Pump

The Barely There Strappy Sandal

The Pink Python Sandal


Thanks for your help!

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